What if my biggest loss in life is to never move on?
Recently, I was reading a book by Trevor Noah which talks about his upbrining of being a "colored" child during the apartheid movement. “Learn from your past and be better because of your past,” she would say, “but don’t cry about your past. Life is full of pain. Let the pain sharpen you, but don’t hold on to it. Don’t be bitter.” ― Trevor Noah, Born a Crime: Stories From a South African Childhood I saw this quote over there which struck me deeply and questioned my ability to move on from loss. I have always survived through bad times but I thought it's best that I can do since I have never thrived from it, unlike a lot of people who bounce back and becomes better person than they were before, albiet the scars and lessons that the experience leaves them with. I have always set lower standards to myself when it comes to dealing with pain since I have carried them with me for years, even as far as a decade I have seen. I simply shut off that pa...